'School Phobia': How to help children heal after trauma

Staff Reporter :

In the wake of Monday’s devastating Bangladesh Air Force (BAF) fighter jet crash into Milestone School and College in Uttara which has so far claimed 31 lives experts are warning about the hidden toll such tragedies can take on children’s mental health.

Professor Dr Helal Uddin Ahmed, a leading child, adolescent and family psychiatrist at the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), spoke to the media about how families, schools, and communities can support young survivors and witnesses struggling with trauma including what’s known as ‘school phobia’.

“It’s entirely normal for people to feel psychological distress after a disaster,” Dr Helal said. “But children and teenagers are still developing emotionally, so the impact can be deeper and last longer.”

He explained that trauma isn’t limited to those directly injured or bereaved. “Children who watch these incidents on TV or social media can also feel fear and panic. This shock can cause sleep problems, anxiety, lack of focus, or even physical issues like bedwetting.”

One common reaction is an intense fear of going back to school often called ‘school phobia’. “If untreated, these symptoms can lead to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) or other serious mental health conditions,” Dr Helal warned. What Caregivers Should Do Dr Helal stressed the importance of ‘psychological first aid’. “Children need empathy, not pity. Pity lowers their confidence empathy helps them feel understood.”

Parents and teachers should answer children’s questions honestly but gently. “Don’t force them to study immediately or push them back to school if they’re not ready. Comments like, ‘Nothing happened to you,’ or, ‘Your school is safe,’ only deepen their anxiety,” he said.

Proper sleep routines, staying away from disturbing content online, and giving children space to express grief are vital. “Suppressing grief can make it worse,” he added.
Teaching Safety and Responsibility
Dr Helal recommended that families use this time to teach basic safety skills for example, how to handle burns or electric shocks. “These lessons help build resilience and reduce fear.” He also encouraged involving children in small acts of support for victims such as prayers, donations, or writing messages of hope.

“Letting them help in a safe, meaningful way gives them a sense of control and eases trauma.”
Above all, Dr Helal emphasised patience and understanding.

“Never scold a child for showing sadness. With time, care, and compassion, children can overcome even deep fear and find the courage to return to school and normal life.”